Do you have the foundation to always stay happy together?
You think about each other all day long, you send each other sweet messages, you are each other's best friends besides being lovers, and you share everything with each other.
You really think the other is the nicest, sweetest, and most beautiful in the world. So nice that you want to share your life together and maybe even so nice that you want a child together. Nothing or no one can come between you.
Familiar?
Congratulations, because this is the basis for staying in love with each other forever.
This is how you keep the cloud pink
Let's be honest. No one can really prepare you for what it's like to live together. To be a family together. Because there are too many variables.
It makes so much difference whether you both feel good about yourselves or whether one of you doesn't feel good. It makes all the difference whether you have an easy child or a crying baby.
And especially whether you think the same about important things or whether you have completely different opinions.
These 6 things are the most important here:
1. Listening is more important than talking
Do you think differently about a situation? Then don't try to convince the other of your opinion or that you are right.
But be curious and explore why the other person sees it differently. Why does the other person feel this way? What are the motives behind this? Why is this so important to the other person?
Because if you know that, your motives may suddenly feel less important than you previously thought.
2. Ask what the other person needs
It is very easy to give advice or fill in what you think the other person needs. But chances are that this is the opposite of what the other person needs. So just ask what the other person needs from you at that moment. That is a win-win for both.
You can do something to make your loved one's life easier, and that is your goal, and your loved one will receive whatever is supportive at that moment.
3. "You are right or lucky."
There are no more options. And believe me, if you understand this, you will never go for your right again.
No more arguments about things that are unimportant. No more yeses or nietes. This is truly a statement that changes your life.
4. Keep telling each other what you like about each other
The last thing you want is for your relationship to become a rut. For your partner to take you for granted.
But the reverse is also true, and the way to counteract this is to consciously continue to see what you like about the other person every day.
And to say this out loud. It only has to be small words like 'I love you , I think you are beautiful or thank you.
5. Keep making an effort for yourself and for each other
You want to hear from your partner that you are still the most beautiful, nicest and sweetest.
Then make sure that you are. Keep making an effort to look beautiful so that your partner continues to find you attractive. Make sure that your partner enjoys going home in the evening and seeing you again. Be kind to yourself and to the other.
6. Make quality time for each other
It is very important that you spend time together, just the two of you. Just as truly together as in the beginning.
And yes, time flies, and there are always things that are important.
But you two are the base, and this is the foundation of everything .
Without you as a foundation, there is no family. So go on dates together; go away for a weekend. This is really important.
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